He claims that she is not depressed; she just may not maintain herself, and she refuses to trade.
While one guy was gaslighting his girlfriend into thinking she had body odor, every other guy is dealing with a partner who in reality refuses to wash herself greater than once a week or believe that she smells.
In a put up at the "Relationships" subreddit, OP explains that his girlfriend could be very clearly no longer depressed. "She's happy and engaged and creative," he writes. They've talked about depression prior to, and this is not it. Still, she won't shower more than once a week.
"It's not some 'set' day or anything," OP writes. "Just when she eventually gets around to it." He's slowly dropped hints that her hygiene is a downside through asking if she wanted to try his new body wash or pointing out that her hair is greasy. But none of that worked.
And it has stepped forward. Now, he'll inform her that she smells and will counsel a bathe. Although she wears deodorant, she nonetheless offers off "a bit of a stale B.O. odor." Also, he writes, "she has a sweaty genital funk." He's discussed it earlier than, and she will snatch a child wipe or one thing, however she nonetheless may not take a shower.
She additionally re-wears the similar pair of lingerie, sniffing them to see in the event that they nonetheless "passable." OP "finally had a bit of a breakdown," advised her she stinks, and requested her why she does not bathe each day. She were given aggravated and informed him he was being controlling.
"She tells me she doesn't smell bad, that she's a grown woman, and of course she sweats and that's normal, and I'm so uptight if I get freaked out by a little sweat," OP writes.
It's one thing to skip a shower right here or there, and it is true that everyone sweats. But it in point of fact turns out like this lady simply does not deal with herself. And at this point, OP does not know what to do.
It seems clear to me that she isn't going to trade. He has introduced it up enough occasions and she has dismissed it sufficient occasions that I don't believe she desires to work on her hygiene.
So, as one commenter wrote to OP, "You need to decide whether it's a dealbreaker for you and act accordingly." It's on OP now. She's now not going to change. He has to come to a decision if he's keen to be in a courting with anyone who doesn't bathe ceaselessly or stay alongside of her personal hygiene.
"She's allowed to choose to shower weekly, and you're allowed to find it a dealbreaker, which I think many would," every other commenter wrote. The bottom line is, if it bothers him that a lot, he has to get out.
Some instructed that he tell her this. Sort of an ultimatum. He can say he can't be with somebody who doesn't bathe often, however he has to be prepared for the chance that she is not going to make that modify and will choose to walk away from the connection.
It sucks if that is the only factor conserving them back, but it is in the end a topic of compatibility. If neither of them are prepared to budge on their position, they are most probably with out each and every different.
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